Packing Light: a review and what that looks like for me

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Selling the majority of your possessions, quitting your job, and embarking on a 50-state road trip may not sound like a jolly good time, but that’s exactly what Allison Vesterfelt did. Allison, a teacher turned writer, and her musician friend, Sharaya, gave up security and comfort to travel around the country for six months. They lived off of talent, prayers, and the generosity of others all in the name of “chasing dreams.”

Allison chronicles their adventure in Packing Light: Thoughts on Living Life with Less Baggage. Her narrative is an engaging memoir/travel log peppered with poignant reflections on faith, relationships, and the baggage we tend to accumulate. She is honest and funny, allowing her own experiences to speak truth and challenge. One aspect of this book that I loved the most was how Allison wove the rich young ruler‘s story in with her own, illuminating some of the baggage he must have been carrying around in his search for eternal life.

I “read” the audio version of Packing Light. The great part about listening to an audiobook is that I can do the dishes, walk on the treadmill or fold laundry while “reading.” The bad part is that I can’t underline or go back and revisit the thoughts and ideas that stuck out. While I enjoyed listening to the author narrate her own adventures, I missed having a physical book to mark up. I’m not an auditory learner; so, despite the fact that I love listening to lectures and sermons and the like, my retention is a bit stunted when I don’t have paper and pen in hand to take notes. I feel like I didn’t squeeze as much juice out of this orange as I could have had I read a physical copy, but I appreciated getting an overall gist/vibe/takeaway from the book that may have gotten lost amidst my focus on the particulars.

Just in case you’re wondering… I will probably go to Barnes and Noble with a notebook and skim for the quotes I would have written down in my journal had I read a hard copy.

My overall takeaway (as in, what I was thinking about after I read the book):

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For me, packing light looks like shedding my expectations. Much of the baggage I carry around comes from expectations. It’s not that reality sometimes falls short of my expectations or that people don’t meet my expectations, it’s that expectations distract me from the present.

Christmas, for example, can be a source of distracting expectations. I have expectations about what the house should look like, what activities should happen leading up to the holiday, and what the actual day should feel like. I don’t think I’ve ever had a Christmas that met all my expectations. Even at the end of the best of Christmases (and I’ve had plenty), there’s still a niggling hint of what didn’t go quite like what I expected. Mary didn’t react to her gift the way I wanted. The grandkids stayed past their nap-time and things got a little out of control. Mom invited a lonely church member over to share dinner and now it’s not just family. As they crumble, those expectations distract from all the wonderful things about the day or the moment.

And this doesn’t just happen with celebrations or activities. Expectations weigh down relationships – with family, with friends, with spouses. I have allowed expectations to distract me from finding joy in so many relationships, even my relationship with myself. My expectations for how I look and what I do distract me from enjoying the body God gave me (which is pregnant and round right now) or maximizing the time I have to rest and recharge before our son is born.

[pullquote position=”right”]We miss out on joy when we let expectations crowd our hearts and minds.[/pullquote] Expectations weigh us down and cloud our vision with perfection when what God has set out for us is right there in front of us. He’s inviting us to leave our expectations behind and grab hold of the freedom we have in His perfect plans.

photo credit: e.b. image via photopin cc

December Twitterature

twitterature-graphic1With only 15 days left of 2013, I’m kind of in a reading race to finish all the books I unwittingly started in the past month or so and then never finished. This is quite the departure from my normal, very methodical reading habits. Here’s three I can now check off my list.

Linking up with Anne for this month’s Twitterature.

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Packing Light: Thoughts on Living Life with Less Baggage by Allison Vesterfelt

A memoir/travelog about a 50-state road trip taken by the author and her friend after they quit their jobs and sold most of their possessions. An engaging read with poignant observations throughout.

Check out my full review here.

Tell Your Time: How To Manage Your Schedule So You Can Live Free by Amy Lynn Andrews

Her tech blog is immensely helpful, and so is this quick (and inexpensive) read. Amy shares her time management system but the real help comes from defining your roles and goals – which she walks you through. #ebook

More on my own roles and goals coming soon!

Reinventing Rachel by Alison Strobel

Fast-paced narrative that doesn’t shy away from real-life themes and struggles like addiction, divorce, and mental disorders. The second novel by Alison that I’ve enjoyed this year. #notyourtypicalchristianfiction (Bonus: The paperback is bargain priced right now!)

Reflections on this author coming at the end of the month when I join Sarah for an end of the year book list link-up. You should join in too!

My Christmasy Recommendations

The Best of Christmas

I’m in a festive mood today. I pulled out the holiday decor boxes and the tree we chopped down this weekend will finally get some trimmings tonight. The laundry I plan/hope to do later will most certainly be accomplished with Christmas music playing in the background.

Since I’m feeling so festive (and North Idaho is finally looking festive – aka, white), I thought I’d share a little Christmas recommendations round-up of my favorite holiday books, music, movies, and decor!

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Books for Advent

The Greatest Gift: Unwrapping The Full Love Story Of Christmas by Ann Voskamp

A beautifully designed Advent devotional with daily readings, meditations, and reflection questions to turn your heart and mind towards our Savior during this crowded season. I was not familiar with the Jesse Tree concept before beginning this book, but I love how it focuses on the family tree of Jesus. My favorite part of each day’s devotional is the “Unwrapping More Of His Love In The World” section where Ann gives a simple and practical action step to be an extension of God’s love that day.

The Women of Christmas: Experience the Season Afresh with Elizabeth, Mary, and Anna by Liz Curtis Higgs 

I love Liz Curtis Higgs’ Christian fiction but had yet to read any of her non-fiction before this Advent themed one. I’m enjoying her easy to digest thoughts about the different female perspectives of the Christmas narrative (though I haven’t quite finished it yet). There’s tons of Scripture throughout so it reads like a conversational commentary.

Books for Children (and Adults)

Christmas Cookies: Bite-Size Holiday Lessons by Amy Krouse Rosenthal

I absolutely adore Amy’s first book, Cookies: Bite-Size Life Lessons, and the Christmas edition is more of the same, with a holiday twist: beautiful illustrations accompanying an ABC dictionary of sweet life lessons. I love keeping this on the coffee table during the Christmas season and will enjoy reading it to James next year (though he’ll probably just enjoy the pictures at that point…).

I’ll Be Home for Christmas by Holly Hobbie

I’m pretty much enamored by Toot and Puddle, two adventurous pigs who happen to be best friends. They are cute and thoughtful and utterly endearing. Toot is a traveler, Puddle is more the anxious sort. This story will have you rooting for both as they try to spend the holidays together. Let It Snow is also a charming Toot and Puddle Christmas story.

The Greatest Shepherd of All: A Really Woolly Christmas Story by Holly Gerth

I must have a thing for children’s books with cute creatures because I’m a huge fan of the Really Woolly sheep. The combination of the Biblical Christmas story and the facial expressions on these chubby sheep make me cry every time I read this book.

Christmas With Anne by L.M. Montgomery

If you find a copy of this, snatch it up. A friend sent one to me a couple years ago and I love to reread the compilation of holiday stories every Christmas. Though not technically for children, this would be a great read aloud for older kids. There are new and old stories, all told with the same innocence and heart that Montgomery infused into all her Anne books.

Music

  • How Many Kings is my favorite modern, Christ-centered Christmas song. The rest of downhere’s album is stellar too.
  • I’m semi-ashamed to recommend Justin Bieber (I blame youth ministry), but I do really enjoy his holiday album, Under The Mistletoe. It’s fun and danceable – perfect for your December workouts.
  • I got Wrapped In Red, the new Christmas album from Kelly Clarkson, this year and was not disappointed. Her original songs are catchy and her covers are well-done.

Movies

  • For some people, it’s A Charlie Brown Christmas. For me, it’s A Garfield Christmas. My Gramma taped it one year when I was in elementary school and my brother and I have watched it every year since. I think we have the whole thing memorized. I now have it on DVD and make my husband watch it with me.
  • Who doesn’t get weepy when the General walks in on his Christmas surprise? White Christmas is a classic in every sense of the word.
  • I realize Frozen isn’t a Christmas movie, however, the icy landscape makes it feel festive and holiday appropriate. Disney scored with this one – great values, loveable characters, wonderful story and animation. My favorite line comes from Olaf, the snowman: “It’s so cute. It’s like a little baby unicorn!”. If you haven’t seen it yet, make sure to 1. go see it and 2. stay for the ALL the credits.

Fun Christmasy Extras

I love simple gift wrap, especially when the base is kraft paper or something else natural looking – like this and this. It’s even better when the natural substance is cheap – like a paper bag.

Card Collage

Paper bags aren’t just good wrapping paper. They make awesome Christmas cards. When you make them like this, they have a built-in little pocket. Perfect for a gift card or cash.

Since frames are a dime a dozen at thrift stores, I love this idea for an inexpensive and unique wreath that could be customized so many different ways (think spay painted white with snowflakes, or gold with book page ornaments).

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One of my favorite decorations to put up is the simple garland my mom and I made last year out of fabric scraps.

For other festive ideas, check out my Christmas and Celebrate boards on Pinterest.

 

What are your favorite Christmas books, movies, music, and decor ideas?

What I’m Into – November

Things have been all quiet on the Primitive Roads front lately. Thanks for sticking around through my absence! Here’s a little photographic tour of why the blog has been hibernating…

November Collage

Entire house got a flooring update, starting with vinyl in the kitchen, dining room, pantry, and bathroom {before and after} | Family visiting for Thanksgiving! Out to breakfast with mom, mom-in-law, and sis-in-law | Painting the upstairs of our house {only the bathroom left to paint…} | New carpet and fresh paint upstairs Wasn’t our green carpet {throughout the whole house} awesome… | My siblings-in-law helping rip up carpet and prep floors {they are home reno studs! | Me and the parentals bundled up for Coeur d’Alene’s annual Christmas parade and fireworks show | Tim hard at work painting baseboards

Now to link up with Leigh for what I’ve been into this month:

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Food Finds

Talenti Gelato

My parents have shared a dangerous food find with us – Talenti Gelato. In the past two weeks, the four of us have consumed 12 pints of their creamy concoctions. The gelato comes in a host of delicious flavors (we have tried 7 flavors), but our top two are Sea Salt Caramel and Chocolate Peanut Butter Cup. We’ve found the gelato at Walmart (yay! because it’s a bit pricey), Safeway/Vons, and Fred Meyer. I think I’ll bring my OB a couple pints tomorrow as an explanation for the extra, non-James pounds I’ve gained since my last appointment.

Another, more healthy, food find that my parents shared with us is from Costco – Sweet Kale Vegetable Salad mix. Before you poo-poo it because kale sounds unappetizing, give it a try. You get a generous bag full of kale, broccoli (like the kind in broccoli slaw), shaved brussels sprouts, cabbage, and chicory plus a packet of poppy seed dressing and a pumpkin seed/dried cranberry mix to add to the greens. It’s a super tasty combination of good for you foods. I like my salads chopped so I run a knife through the greens before tossing with the mix-ins and dressing. I also like it best with a tad more dressing (Brianna’s Poppy Seed dressing is good), extra dried cranberries, and a small handful of sunflower seeds.

After several friends raved about these (gluten free) energy bites, I made them for myself. Just yum. In my head, I’ve renamed them “wonder balls”. How could you go wrong with oats, peanut butter, maple syrup, and chocolate chips?

Cranberry Cream Cheese Dip

Made Cranberry Cream Cheese dip (which my family calls Christmas Crack) for Thanksgiving. I forgot the lemon again and used fresh squeezed orange juice instead. Addicting in the best way possible.

Books and Reading

Once again, I have too many books in progress. I’m usually a one book at a time type girl. That’s the problem when I forget to bring a book somewhere and have to start an e-book on my phone to pass the time. Right now, I’m in the middle of:

You can check out all the books I’ve read this year here.

An awesome bookish app I have yet to fully explore – OverDrive Media Console. What snookered me into downloading it on my iPhone was the ability to listen to audiobooks that were available at my local library.

Pinterest Finds

How to make gloves touchscreen sensitive. Perfect for me and my perpetually cold hands!

Gretchen’s entire WordPress series is so very helpful, but I particularly like these tips for refreshing old posts

A broken dryer doomed our towels to a life of smelly existence the first week we moved to Coeur d’Alene. It took me over a year, but I finally did the Pinterest thing and washed them in hot water and 1/2 cup of white vinegar. Problem solved. I didn’t even have to do a second round with baking soda. I will always wash my towels in vinegar now.

Other :)

With third-trimester fatigue setting in, I made a pact with myself that if I kept the house clean, I wouldn’t feel guilty about napping or reading on the couch. For some reason, wearing rubber gloves has made the dish washing element of keeping the house clean much more fun/palatable. I can get the water really hot without drying out my hands. I’m partial to the classic yellow variety.

Rhett and Link

A friend of ours introduced us to Rhett and Link, who have a YouTube show called Good Mythical Morning (Monday-Friday). Tim and I are now hooked on their quirky humor. They are multi-talented guys. Here are a couple of our favorite non-GMM clips:

Nourishing

The gals over at Pure & Simple wrote lovely posts about the table and hospitality all last month. They are so worth reading. {photo credit}

Preserving and Printing PhotosI gave up on scrapbooking in favor of making Blurb books (see this post for how I like to preserve and print my photos), but the Project Life system could potentially get me back into the scrapping swing of things.

November Twitterature

twitterature-graphic1Linking up with Anne at Modern Mrs. Darcy for another round of Twitterature. I only finished a couple new books, and one that I have read before, but they were are all worth reading!

You can check out all the books I’ve read this year here.

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A Beautiful Mess: A Perfectionist’s Journey Through Self-Care by Kristin Ritzau

More clinical than @EmilyPFreeman’s lyrical approach in Grace For The Good Girl, but same themes of hope and freedom for perfectionists. The Second half, in which Ritzau explores the five areas in our lives we need to examine before acceptance is possible was enlightening.

A Million Little Ways: Uncover The Art You Were Made To Live by Emily FreemanAnother winner from @EmilyPFreeman. Powerful and timely encouragement to live your art despite living in a world of comparison and distraction.

Bread and Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table with Recipes by Shauna Niequist

It’s no secret that I love this book. This is my second read through of the year. Read more about why it’s one of my favorites of 2013 here, here, here, and here.

Speaking of Bread and Wine… Here’s the last two installments of my expanded discussion guide for the book: