Can I Ask That?

It all started with the apocrypha. My Intro to the Bible course required a Bible with the apocrypha. I hadn’t ever heard of the apocrypha, but since it wasn’t in the NIV Bible I had been using most of my life, I was instantly wary. My expectations were high going in to my first year at a small, Christian college and this wasn’t the start I was picturing.

While my classmates and professor discussed different theories behind the canonical order of the gospels, I sat cringing in my seat. By the time we started reading from the Gospel of Thomas, I had mentally, emotionally, and spiritually checked out. Biblical criticism was a new concept for me and I wasn’t prepared for the inner conflict welling up as we studied various viewpoints on Scripture. I was confident, maybe a little cocky, in what I believed, but I found myself unable to explain many of my convictions in the face of these new concepts.

I hadn’t expected my beliefs to be academically challenged. That’s certainly not what I had been looking for in a “Bible class.” Since I purposefully didn’t take another religion course in college after that, God found other ways to break through my spiritual comfort zone, which, in retrospect, was one of the best things about my college experience. Those four years became a turning point in my spiritual journey. I began to wrestle with my beliefs and make faith decisions for myself. There was less spiritual assumption and more circumstances that required me to articulate my beliefs.

As I continue to follow Christ, I’ve realized that questioning your faith and having your faith questioned is an essential part of spiritual formation. Unfortunately we live in a Christian culture that doesn’t always encourage questions. Especially if you’ve grown up in the church, questions are associated with doubting and woe be unto thee who doubts…

As someone who comes in contact with youth on a regular basis (my husband, Tim, is a youth pastor and I’ve volunteered in middle and high school ministries for the past four years), I want to be someone who embraces and encourages questions.

Tim models this very well in his own life and in ministry. He’s chosen a book for the high school group to walk through on Sunday mornings together that encourages students to explore their faith and ask tough questions. I was challenged to grapple with my convictions about the character of God, women in ministry, and the validity of Scripture while reading through this book.

Can I Ask That?Despite being geared towards students, I couldn’t help but wish everyone would read Can I Ask That? 8 Hard Questions About God & Faith. Even though it was written as a curriculum for students, the content promotes conversation and critical thinking about common questions asked by believers and non-believers alike.

The authors of Can I Ask That? don’t give answers to the 8 difficult topics covered. They guide readers in discovering their own convictions and help them to articulate the why.

Beyond the important themes and values supporting the content, here are some other reasons I love Can I Ask That?:

  1. Design: The graphics, layout, and illustrations are just plain cool.
  2. Format: Each question is approached from five different angles – story, questions, notes, scripture, and dialogue. The stories and dialogue are fictional but so relevant and relatable. I’m not too old to know the authors have taken an accurate pulse on the current generation.
  3. Conversation: You can just tell Can I Ask That? was created and crafted to promote conversation. The authors provide tips for promoting healthy dialogue (in the leader guide) and the question sections are designed like conversation bubbles. Readers may not recognize the hints, but this book is filled with the subtle message to get talking!

Can I Ask That? would be an awesome book to go through as a family, too. I’m excited to be part of the conversations we will have on Sunday mornings with our high school group this Summer and I’m even more excited (and somewhat terrified) about having these conversations with James as he grows.

I never want to be too old or too comfortable in my faith to ask questions. Can I Ask That? is a great place to start.

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are you addicted to blogging porn?

are you addicted to blogging pornYou flip open your computer with innocent intentions. You’ll only spend a few minutes here and there before you get down to business. But a few clicks later and your hooked. Again. You wonder how things got this out of hand, how you could let yourself waste so much time doing something you know you shouldn’t.

It’s seductive. It’s destructive. It’s blogging porn.

Blogging porn is voyeuristically viewing how other bloggers write, design, and monetize, fantasizing about their careers, lives, and circumstances, thus, avoiding the real work and goals of your own internet space. Blogging porn is hurting bloggers everywhere, killing creativity, stifling individuality, and sabotaging productivity.

We are quick to recognize how sexual pornography can ruin lives, but do we realize other forms of porn exist and have related negative effects? Consider some of the problems with actual pornography and you’ll begin to see why blogging porn is a similarly slippery slope.

5 dangers of blogging porn

  • Porn damages relationships. It hurts both the user and the people around them, not only in the present, but in the future as well. Scanning the internet, endlessly comparing yourself to others, leads to jealousy. You covet the platform, the design, the writing ability and soon you are too consumed with envy over what they have and you don’t that your friendship dwindles. Existing relationships are tainted and future relationships are stopped before they have a chance to blossom.
  • Porn promotes unrealistic expectations. It capitalizes on out-of-the-ordinary (often digitally enhanced) people doing out-of-the-ordinary things that most real people don’t do. Similarly, blogging porn pits your skills against industry leaders who have teams working behind the scenes, who blog full-time, who are exceptionally gifted with talent and resources. The average blogger can’t dish out thousands for a stellar design or devote hours to creating viral content. Comparing your blog to the top 1% of bloggers will leave you dissatisfied with reality.
  • Porn is distracting. The internet has made pornography easily available to the masses at any time of day or night. Blogs are equally accessible. How many of us have allowed a quick “inspect element” turn into hours of drooling over other blogs’ theme and social media icons? The time spent oogling other blogs and judging that post could be spent investing in our own blog.
  • Porn cheapens the real deal. Something is always lost in translation when you endlessly consume the unrealistic. What was once fun, meaningful, and fulfilling is left wanting because you’ve been inundated with a deceptive standard. However small or amateur your blogging efforts, they are worthwhile because they come from your heart and your passions (I hope!). They are the real deal. Don’t let blogging porn diminish the work you do and the effort you put forth.
  • Porn leads to more, more, more. It’s never enough. The pornography vortex redefines success. You can’t be satisfied with what you have – you need to have a podcast or an online course or an ebook. Those things often come at the expense of time and energy you should be expending elsewhere. And for what end? Another platform for you to compare to others?

I’ve fallen into this trap too many times. I’ve let hours go by as I Iooked and coveted. Repeat. My envy has driven wedges between friendships and kept me from connecting with others. I’ve let blogging porn make blogging more of a commodity than a ministry.

I don’t think you need to delete your feed reader or stop looking at blogs for ideas and inspiration, but blogging pornography is a real danger if you let those practices consume your time and energy.

Blogging is hard work; but it can have a real impact and build real relationships. Don’t let blogging porn cheapen your work and steal your blogging joy.

photo credit: AhmadHashim & Ivana Vasilj via photopin cc

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community is a treasure

Community is a treasure

God has been doing some reordering of my priorities, so I’ve been thinking a lot about busyness.

We spent precious time with friends and family on our vacation, so I’ve been thinking a lot about community.

A National Treasure 1 & 2 marathon may or may not have happened over the weekend, so I’ve been thinking a lot about treasure.

Lord, let the way I invest my time reflect the things I hold most dear.

Further Reading:

Homemade Cinnamon Golden-Raisin Clif Bars

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The first time I ate a Clif Bar was at the top of Vernal Falls in Yosemite. I was camping with my boyfriend’s (now husband) family. We had begun our hike with no goal in mind, but after a quick poll, we all determined it would be worth reaching the top. The Mist Trail offers the gamot of experiences – slippery rocks, skinny pathways, and sweeping vistas – and reaching the top was a physical, as well as mental, accomplishment.

We navigated those last rock stairs, pressing to the inside of the mountain to let others pass who were headed back down, and stepped onto a sunshine soaked plateau. I was in awe of the powerful surge of water flinging itself from such a height. I was also hungry! Tim had had the presence of mind to bring a couple snacks, so it was at the top of that rushing waterfall that I bit into my first Clif Bar. Maybe it was the endorphins from our climb speaking, but that Chocolate Chip Clif Bar was so ding dang delicious.

I’ve been a Clif Bar fan every since that mountain-top experience. We buy them in bulk from Costco (I was sad to see Chocolate Chip Peanut Butter disappear from the variety pack.) and I eat one almost every day. My favorite flavor rotates, but White Chocolate Macadamia and Coconut Chocolate Chip compete for the top spot often.

Homemade Clif BarsEven in the Costco pack, Clif Bars aren’t always practical for our tight budget and I’ve always wondered if I could replicate them at home to save some pennies. I’ve searched Pinterest multiple times but haven’t found what I was looking for, until last week.

Most copycat Clif Bar recipes didn’t have crispy rice cereal as an ingredient, despite that being a listed ingredient in the real thing. I wanted a recipe that had oats, crispy rice cereal, and didn’t rely on date paste as a sweetener. In walks Liv Lives Life with just what I was looking for, and a calorie count to boot.

The method is simple and relies on pantry staples. Oats and crispy rice cereal make up the bulk of the bars with flax meal for added nutrition. Honey and nut butter (I use crunchy peanut butter) act as the binder. There’s infinite possibilities for add-in customization, so you can recreate your favorite Clif Bar flavor or make up your own.

Homemade Cinnamon Raisin Clif Bars 1Now, these don’t quite have the Clif Bar texture, but the delicious factor makes up for any nuance lacking in the texture department. You could also try quick cookie oats, instead of old fashioned, to get a more dense crumb.

I adapted Liv’s basic Clif Bar method to create these Cinnamon Golden-Raisin beauties. I used a dram of Vanilla Butternut extract instead of vanilla which added a hint of butterscotch to these bars. Any type of raisin would work in this recipe, but I like the sweetness of golden raisins.

These Cinnamon Golden-Raisin Clif Bars are a great supplement to the pre-packaged variety. Plus, they taste like cookies…

Homemade Cinnamon Golen Raisin Clif Bars

Homemade Cinnamon Golden-Raisin Clif Bars
Author: Emily C. Gardner
Prep time: 10 mins
Total time: 10 mins
Serves: 8
Oatmeal raisin cookies in a simple, homemade Clif Bar form.
Ingredients
  • 1/2 cup peanut butter
  • 1/3 cup honey
  • 1 dram (3/4 teaspoon) vanilla butternut extract or 1 teaspoon vanilla
  • 1 1/4 cups crisp rice cereal
  • 1 cup old fashioned oats
  • 2 tablespoons flax meal
  • 1 teaspoon cinnamon
  • 1/2 cup golden raisins
Instructions
  1. Line an 8 x 8 inch pan with waxed paper (cut one strip that fits the bottom of the pan and allow some extra to stick up above the rim of the pan to use as handles). Set aside.
  2. In a saucepan, heat peanut butter and honey over medium heat until melted. Take off heat and add vanilla butternut flavoring. Stir to combine. Allow to cool while you mix together the other ingredients.
  3. In a large bowl, stir together the rice cereal, oats, flax meal, cinnamon, and golden raisins. Mix well – the flax meal has a tendency to stay clumped together. Add the peanut butter mixture to the oat mixture and stir until all the ingredients are well coated.
  4. Pour batter into the prepared pan and press down firmly with a spatula until the top is even. You want to press down as firmly as you can so the bars are dense and hold together when cut.
  5. Let the bars cool in the refrigerator for at least 30 minutes before cutting. To cut, lift the mixture out of the pan with wax paper handles. Cut into desired size bars – I liked what 8 pieces produced.
  6. Wrap individually in plastic wrap and store in refrigerator. (You don’t need to eat them cold, they just stay better in the fridge.)
Serving size: 8 bars Calories: 231

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What I’m Into – April 2014

What I'm IntoLinking up with Leigh Kramer to share what I’ve been into lately.

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I put an SOS out on Facebook for songs along the lines of Firework by Katie Perry and Glitter In The Air by Pink for a playlist I’ve entitled “Get It Girl.” Sometimes I just need some powerhouse music to get me through an afternoon slump or a tough workout. I believe Tim was a tad embarrassed that this playlist now exists on his Spotify account. What would song would you add?

Get It Girl

For better or for worse, coffee and I are back in a relationship. I do half-caf so the little guy doesn’t go haywire. I’ve had to go back to decaf, but the rest of this still applies… I used to enjoy my coffee black, but man I’m digging the creamer lately. Tim and I are always looking for ways to cut our grocery budget, so I tried my hand at making my own coffee creamer. Three ingredient success! (To be honest, we preferred the sweetness of store-bought creamer because we are sugary like that. But, we’ve switched over to half and half.)

Homemade Coffee CreamerI was faced with some major disappointment last month. Though I certainly learned a ton about when God’s plan includes no, I’m thrilled that His most recent no wasn’t an absolute no. Tim and I are headed to California in May to visit family and friends!

Our little guy keeps growing. Can’t believe he’s 3 months old already. His Uncle David and Aunt Holly watched him one evening last week so Tim and I could enjoy a pre-anniversary (May 11th is 2 years) dinner out. We had an amazing meal at Satay Bistro, which prompted me to post on Experience CDA, our semi-forgotten local interest blog. If you need some food envy, don’t miss the photos in the review.

The SUN!

Eating

Despite counting calories in anticipation of our California trip, we’ve consumed far too many of these microwave cookies. Tim perfected the recipe and they are a mondo treat. More details coming soon!

Microwave Cookie

Made this Skinny Spinach Lasagna on Monday – super delicious, even my meat loving Hubs didn’t mind being a vegetarian for the evening.

Continued the winning streak of my current favorite cookbook with this Cucumbers Vinaigrette recipe. Great as a side dish for summer BBQs.

Cucumbers Vinaigrette

Cucumbers Vinaigrette 

  • 2 medium cucumbers, peeled and sliced into 1/8″ rounds
  • 1/4 cup cider vinegar
  • 2 tablespoons sugar
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground dried mustard
  • ground black pepper to taste

Combine vinegar, sugar, salt, dried mustard, and pepper. Toss with cucumbers. Serve or refrigerate until ready to use. (Only 36 calories for 1/4 of the recipe!)

Planning to buy a rosemary plant to have year-round so I can make this Rosemary Lemonade any time I want.

Rosemary Lemonade 4I made a couple rounds of overnight refrigerator oats because I miss the Chilled Swiss Oatmeal at Corner Bakery.

Reading

I started the Divergent trilogy. Loved the first installment and am moving slowly through Insurgent.

Wrote a review for Love Idol by Jennifer Dukes Lee over on Kindred Grace in which I talk about eating mud pies. I was challenged and encouraged by the message woven throughout the book.

Still trying to finish Rhinestone Jesus after taking a break to finish Love Idol.

I’ve been running again, so I loved reading this post about comparison by Mandy Scarr.

Angry Socks and Silences by Bronwyn Lea is such a wonderfully candid look at marriage.

Pinning

Pinteresting is my go-to activity while nursing James. I probably should use that time more wisely, but thus far Pinterest seems to be what works. I’ve done some reorganizing (which I love to do) of my food related boards. Check out these new additions:

This gorgeous dress – I’m dubious that it’s actually easy to sew…

I’ve always wondered if I could pull this look off.

I wouldn’t mind having this flower installation in my house.

Genius idea I wish I had thought of before studying abroad.

Writing

I got to interview Trina Holden about her fabulous book Embracing Beauty.

Tim and I have been eating a lot of pizza lately. When we don’t have time to make our own crust, we like to jazz up store-bought crust.

My simplifying rampage continues… #ECGsimplifies

I wrote some poetry, which I never do.

Throwing open my windows and stepping into the confessional booth with two vulnerable posts.

What have you been up to this month?

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